Sunday Reflections
There’s a line in caregiving that you don’t notice until you’ve crossed it. One day you’re helping. The next you’re quietly taking over. I thought I was protecting my mum. I wanted to make life safer and easier. But in doing so, I sometimes took away small moments of independence that still belonged to her.…
Continue Reading Safety Without Smothering: Learning When to Step Back in Dementia Care
When you’ve been a full-time caregiver for a long time, your world can shrink. Not in a bad way, just in a focused way. Everything narrows to the person you’re looking after. Their needs, their safety, their comfort. And you find ways to cope with that. You adapt. You forget that your own life used…
Continue Reading How Do You Return to Work After Caring? I Didn’t Know Either!
After my mum died, I didn’t set out to create rituals. I was just trying to get through the days without feeling like the ground had dropped away under me. Some things stuck because they made those days a little more bearable. Looking back, I realise they became my small grief rituals, just quiet things…
Continue Reading Small Grief Rituals That Helped After My Mum Died
What no one tells you about grieving a parent with dementia is it’s not the obvious things that can take you down. It’s almost three months since mum died and I thought I’d crumble with Mother’s days and Eid Al Fitr, our first big celebration days but by choosing not to be alone most of…
Continue Reading What No One Tells You About Grieving A Parent With Dementia
This weekend is going to be incredibly hard. It’s Mother’s day and the end of Ramadan when we’ll celebrate Eid Al-Fitr. It’s meant to be a time of love, family and celebration, but for me, it’s going to be a weekend of what I’ve lost. I’m barely holding on, dreading the next few days.…
It’s been two months since Mum passed, and I still don’t know how to feel. I’m struggling with finding my way through grief. People say losing a parent is one of the biggest losses, but when you’ve been their caregiver, it’s something else entirely different. Mum was my whole life for the last 13 years.…